Personals members share their dating tips

08 Jul

When we meet a potential love interest in person, we’re taught to look for certain red flags—like being rude to the waiter, calling incessantly or not at all, or claiming that his favorite book is The Da Vinci Code.When we’re choosing potential dates online, though, we sometimes have little more than a picture and a paragraph to go on.“I should’ve taken that as a sign, but I figured it was Friday night, so I shouldn’t judge.When we met up in person, he was a [jerk] and kept asking me if I ‘liked to party.’” So a good rule of thumb is: if your date is drunk the first time you talk to him on the phone, end it there.

Someone who truly wants to get to know you will take the time to write a personalized message responding to specific items in your profile, not send a generic cut-and-paste letter saying, “Hey girl, I saw your profile and was intrigued …” Think about the hundreds of other people who’ve gotten the same letter, and decide whether you’re willing to accept only the barest minimum of effort.“No one expects to meet in person after just a couple of emails, but if you’ve been corresponding regularly, it’s expected that you’ll take your relationship offline.If the person doesn’t even want to talk on the phone or meet for coffee, it’s okay to wonder what his motivations are.As a leader in black dating, we successfully bring together black singles from around the world.100s of happy men and women have met their soul mates on Black Cupid and shared their stories with us. Whether you’re looking for a date or the love of your life, find them in a fun and secure environment on Black Cupid.